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How Angelina Look So Much Young

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If you know me, you know I like Facebook.  It’s my number-one time-waster.

My least favourite aspect of it, though, are the Facebook ads that appear in the margin of the page.  I know advertising revenue is necessary and I don’t begrudge the makers of Facebook their chance to make a few pennies while I’m catching up with old friends and former students from around the world. Advertising is a necessary evil.

What amuses me, but also infuriates me, is the way Facebook takes what it knows about me, demographically, and then targets what ads I see to what my supposed interests are.  There are usually two or three small ads in the margin of every page. On my FB page right now, one is for some university program and the other is for Classmates.com, neither of which I have a problem with. I mean, I wouldn’t click on them, which is what they presumably want, but their mere presence doesn’t drive me to rage. I get ads for writing-related sites, education-related sites, comedy-related sites, things like that — I have no problem with those.

What gets me are the vast preponderance of ads that assume that because I’m a 43-year-old female, I must be obsessed with a) dieting, and b) getting rid of wrinkles.

First there were the ubiquitous Facebook diet ads.  These usually featured tiny little pictures of the torso of a faceless, healthy-looking normal woman, next to the torso of an anorexic teenager, with an encouraging little message like: “It’s Not Too Late! You Can Lose the Flab Today!!”

Now, I have the greatest respect for people who are losing weight because they genuinely need to do so, for health reasons or because their current weight doesn’t allow them to enjoy life at its fullest.  No problems with that. I have a HUGE problem with a weight-loss industry that’s geared towards making middle-aged women feel bad about themselves because they don’t look like starved teenagers.  I find this incredibly offensive, and the implication that because I’m in my 40s and female, I must be obsessed with my weight, is even more offensive.

Fortunately, “Offensive” is one of the categories you can choose when you “reject” an ad.  Here’s a thing I really do like about advertising on Facebook: there’s a little “thumbs up/thumbs down” symbol underneath every single ad. If you choose thumbs-down, you are given a drop-down menu of reasons why you don’t like that ad (offensive/misleading/irrelevant etc).  If you do this enough, that particular type of ad will stop appearing on your page.   I guess it doesn’t stop them from appearing around Facebook generally, but at least I don’t have to look at them anymore.

After awhile, the diet ads disappeared. There was a whole rash of ads about something called Acai Berries, which apparently also had to do with weight loss, but since they didn’t show images designed to make me feel bad about my body, I mostly ignored them (though from the little I’ve heard about Acai, I guess I could have clicked “Misleading”).

Now the new trend is for ads featuring pictures of “middle aged” female actors —  Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Aniston, and Madonna are the favourites, though I’ve also seen Catherine Zeta-Jones — with a little blurb asking me how this actress manages to stay so young-looking without the use of Botox or surgery, and wouldn’t I like to know her secret?

Well, no. Not at all.  And these ads offend me because they’re based on a number of faulty assumptions:

1) that I really believe Angelina, Jennifer or Madonna hasn’t had Botox or plastic surgery.

2) that I believe every photo I’ve ever seen of her hasn’t been airbrushed and retouched within an inch of its life.

3) that I want to look like Jennifer, Madonna or Angelina instead of like myself.

4) (this is the big one) that I hate being and looking 43 and want to hang onto some illusion of eternal youth.

Also, it doesn’t help that:

a) they are often written in a kind of choppy Japanese-assembly-instruction language, so that the ad might feature a picture of Angelina Jolie and a headline asking: “Ever wonder how Angelina look so much young than she is?” Um, no.

b) they hit a pretty wide range in “targeting” me with celebs who are “about my age.” Madonna is 51 and, yeah, pretty amazing, but I’m quite confident there’s a lot of machinery that goes into maintaining that superstructure. Angelina Jolie is 33 and darn well should look young … because she IS.

But it really is the underlying assumption that bothers me most. I mean, it’s not like I’ve just woken up to the fact that the entire beauty industry is predicated upon making women unhappy with their bodies and faces — I do get that that’s been going on for many, many years. It’s the cyncial manipulation of these particular ads targeted at ME that really brings it home, though.

WHY should I want to lose weight if I’m not particularly overweight? Because I’m not as skinny as this model! WHY should I want to look younger than I am, if I’m 43 and have enjoyed every year of the journey? Why shouldn’t I let it show on my face? Because plastic-bot-woman from Hollywood is 43 and looks 30, and of course I want to be just like her!!

It just discourages me and makes me angry, frankly, and I truly don’t understand what’s at the bottom of it. Would I feel differently if I’d ever been a truly beautiful woman? Would I be desperate to hang onto that? I’ve always been a sort of average, unremarkable-looking girl, and while there were times during the hellish dating years that I would have liked to be a beauty, for the most part I’ve gotten through life without thinking a whole lot about how I look. It seems absurd to me that I would be 43 and not want to LOOK 43. I am who I am — why would I want to be anything different?

I guess I just don’t get it.  If Angelina is happy with how she looks, good for her. Likewise Madonna, Jennifer, and Catherine.  Know what? So am I.

Until I figure out how to dismantle the beauty myth, I’ll just keep clicking “offensive” and hoping the ads go away.

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10 thoughts on “How Angelina Look So Much Young

  1. I love the quote by Cindy Crawford where she says, “Even I don’t look like Cindy Crawford when I get up in the morning”. I also love that ‘campaign for real beauty’ ad that Dove has out where they take a woman and transform her to a billboard model by some make-up, and some actual computer reshaping of her forehead, eyes, and neck, so you see how truly impossible it would be for even THAT girl to look like that.

    On the other hand, I’m a guy who will most likely get jowls, and I really would rather not. Sure, they are okay on OTHER people, but I’d rather they stay off me.

    Ultimately, though, I’ve always hoped to be lucky enough to get really really old, and if the trade off for that is jowls, well, sign me up!

  2. well said! i get so frustrated when people assume that i want to look like i haven’t had a baby. but i have had a baby, and i’m glad i did! i’m happy with my body. i like it the way it is, but everywhere there seems to be the assumption that my body is a problem to be fixed. i think it deserves a metal for doing what it has!

  3. Don’t worry, Trudy – I get the ‘it’s not too late if you act NOW’ kind of ads. Like you, I don’t have a problem with ageing. I have the beginnings of crows feet around my eyes. I have grey hair starting to come through. I am saggier in places I once wasn’t. But I’m the happiest I’ve ever been to be me. I don’t want to look 10 years older than I am, but I don’t necessarily want to look 10 years younger either. I’m comfortable in my own skin – much more so than when I was a tall, skinny, athletic teenager with legs to die for! It’s a shame I didn’t know that then…

    I’d love to go and have some of those glamour shots done, purely to show how the right makeup and lighting and photoshop editing can make ANYONE look fantastic.

    I go to the gym every day, but that’s actually got nothing to do with weight, and everything to do with health. The reality is I have more energy when I exercise. I feel better. I also feel better when I eat chocolate, so I do that too 🙂

    I have never responded to FB ads. You might have just inspred me to start doing so.

  4. I’ve never noticed ads on my facebook page, never. So I just went there eager to see what they might want to sell a 66-year-old woman. Guess what. They don’t want to sell me anything. I guess they figure it’s too late. So now I feel kind of bad that they think there’s nothing that could help me — no online degrees, work opportunities, cosmetics, weight-loss products — nothing. Am I wrong to feel that’s offensive?

  5. You got me to thinking, no, not about Hollywood’s brand of fake beauty, but about those facebook ads. Once, I accidentally clicked on something about counting triangles or something and now I’m inundated with increase-or-compare your IQ kinds of ads. At least those are less annoying than the buy-our-diet-so-you-can-lose-weight-so-you-might-start-to-look-like-an-anorexic-and-emotionally-needy-actress ads.

    Do enjoy your lovely youthful face and figure now–it’s all going south sooner than you can imagine. The secret advantage to aging is that the saggier your body gets, the happier you get. Why’s this contentment secret? Because it’s free to those who stick around long enough so nobody is paying to advertise it, LOL.

  6. I wonder what would happen if we clicked on EVERY ad and marked it ‘offensive’…

    …I guess what would happen if we did that is we’d spend our life in front of the computer clicking ads…

  7. Trudy, I loved this piece on your blog. You expressed exactly what so many of us feel – sick and tired of being bombarded by the media with products to make us look 20 plus years younger. And, what for? Your total honesty is to be admired. Thanks for reminding us that we need to be happy with who we are!

  8. You’re happy with your body? You don’t want to look like a model or celebrity? You don’t fear ageing?

    I didn’t think women like you still existed.

    Whether you watch a MTV video, a soap opera, read a magazine, play a computer game or browse the internet, it’s pretty clear that a woman’s role is to look like a barbie doll – forever. And what’s so strange is that women are buying into this…at a time when they’ve never been more powerful, more wealthy or more free. We’re working, divorcing, having babies without men at times, running for president….

    So why are we obsessing about our looks – even more than in the past when we had little power?

    You are a dying breed. I’m young and have noticed there are no adults anymore. In particular, all adult women now want to look and act as youthful as possible.

    We’re living in a world without any grown ups.

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